Dear Andre,
Plz check if ur members scripts are making persistant connections to MYSQL using pconnect instead of connect.
persistent connections are only needed very rare and generally all other functionality is possible using normal connect method.
i have no idea where but if u can plz check the number of mysql connections
This should give u an idea or search for scripts containing the php function
mysql_pconnect
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resource mysql_pconnect ( [string server [, string username [, string password [, int client_flags]]]] )
Establishes a persistent connection to a MySQL server.
mysql_pconnect() acts very much like mysql_connect() with two major differences.
First, when connecting, the function would first try to find a (persistent) link that's already open with the same host, username and password. If one is found, an identifier for it will be returned instead of opening a new connection.
Second, the connection to the SQL server will not be closed when the execution of the script ends. Instead, the link will remain open for future use (mysql_close() will not close links established by mysql_pconnect()).
This type of link is therefore called 'persistent'.
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And its quite possible that someone is using mysql to store files for eg hivemail uses mysql to store emails of all site users
So also keep an eye on teh size of mysql dbs